"it’s your life — but only if you make it so. the standards by which you live must be your own standards, your own values, your own convictions in regard to what is right and wrong, what is true and false, what is important and what is trivial. when you adopt the standards and the values of someone else or a community or a pressure group, you surrender your own integrity. you become, to the extent of your surrender, less of a human being." eleanor roosevelt.